I love this! I think one's desire to commitment before taking action comes from people falling in love with the idea of something whether it's a person, a hobby, or a career! but they aren't actually IN LOVE with the act of doing it. the only way to know is to do. i love the way your mind deconstructs these thoughts!!
“If you're dating someone you're dating the universe too.” I feel this in my bones. I’m also recently broken-up and extracting myself from a long-term relationship and finding it’s not just losing The Person but the universe of tiny things that existed between us that is so hard to let go of. A million little griefs, not just one big one. I couldn’t put that into words but reading yours has helped me a lot. Thank you for writing them <3
This is so so beautiful and inspired me to be more courageous. I struggle with perfectionism a lot, and I find myself researching, planning, and ruminating before I do absolutely anything. The analogy of not being able to taste food with your eyes is so real. I must do in order to know. And I have to understand that the first times may be bad, unpleasant, or different than I expected. Because it is new! And that is okay.
"A commitment is both the promise and the following action. But why do we assume that order?"
My body did a double take reading this. Why *do* we follow this order? I can’t believe I never thought to consider otherwise, and the more I reflect on the idea, the more I realize it's a better order. Thank you for sharing, and for the great advice!
Even if you didn't write as beautifully as you do, the bare bones of your thesis here would be stunning in themselves. But the extra overlay of sumptuous magic that comes of your writing style makes for something truly special. '[I]ridescence squared' indeed.
This is so beautiful. I literally see myself and my current relationship while reading it 🥹
aw that's so lovely, I'm glad you've found love :)
I love this! I think one's desire to commitment before taking action comes from people falling in love with the idea of something whether it's a person, a hobby, or a career! but they aren't actually IN LOVE with the act of doing it. the only way to know is to do. i love the way your mind deconstructs these thoughts!!
Agreed!
stunning. i wish i wrote this.
Such a beautiful, profound essay. Thank you for sharing this Jesse! 😊
“If you're dating someone you're dating the universe too.” I feel this in my bones. I’m also recently broken-up and extracting myself from a long-term relationship and finding it’s not just losing The Person but the universe of tiny things that existed between us that is so hard to let go of. A million little griefs, not just one big one. I couldn’t put that into words but reading yours has helped me a lot. Thank you for writing them <3
writing about these things does feel like picking up shards of glass, but when comments like yours come around it feels like the pain was worth it <3
THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS!
THANK YOU FOR COMMENTING HANNAH this means so incredibly much <3
YOU'RE KIDDING ME THIS IS INSANE WOW
This is so so beautiful and inspired me to be more courageous. I struggle with perfectionism a lot, and I find myself researching, planning, and ruminating before I do absolutely anything. The analogy of not being able to taste food with your eyes is so real. I must do in order to know. And I have to understand that the first times may be bad, unpleasant, or different than I expected. Because it is new! And that is okay.
Ridiculously good. You just simplify some seemingly complex paths to action and reading work like this that is motivating in itself 🫵🫶
that is literally so core to why I write this comment means a lot to me thank you wepea <3
thank you. i love ur writing, it resonates with a special place within my heart. stay curious and wonderful xx
thank you! you're so sweet, i appreciate ur comment :)
“But the truth is that the things that define our lives - our habits, our identities, our relationships - are choices made daily, continually.”
Loved this. I started living my life by the phrase: choose a long obedience in the same direction.
"A commitment is both the promise and the following action. But why do we assume that order?"
My body did a double take reading this. Why *do* we follow this order? I can’t believe I never thought to consider otherwise, and the more I reflect on the idea, the more I realize it's a better order. Thank you for sharing, and for the great advice!
Comments like these are really why I write :)
Even if you didn't write as beautifully as you do, the bare bones of your thesis here would be stunning in themselves. But the extra overlay of sumptuous magic that comes of your writing style makes for something truly special. '[I]ridescence squared' indeed.
thank you alice <3, your comment so eloquent it's making my pieces look bad 😭
This is beautiful and a really profound message about commitment. Thank you for sharing it.
"we forget that a thousand years of looking at something won't help us taste it" I love that